tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post2810322006439170409..comments2023-12-29T04:36:07.964-04:00Comments on Square 8: Social Stories for autism professionalsBevhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06766614739853100172noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-83364518786178722682015-04-15T01:23:27.939-04:002015-04-15T01:23:27.939-04:00There once was a car called the Delta 88!There once was a car called the Delta 88!Miguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-71248154506784446502008-03-27T10:46:00.000-04:002008-03-27T10:46:00.000-04:00The tricky thing is that, unfortunately, some peop...The tricky thing is that, unfortunately, some people DO use various diagnostic labels (not just autism) as an "excuse" not to try at all.<BR/><BR/>But speaking as a person with attention deficit disorder, I do understand what you mean about how some people then use that to abuse the word "excuse" in a way that implies that every reason is necessarily meant to be an excuse. <BR/><BR/>My terrible housekeeping skills, for example, are very much related to my attention deficit disorder. That doesn't mean that I'm trying to get a free ride for not even trying, but it DOES mean I have a legitimate need for more support than most people when it comes to housekeeping. For example, more reliance on professional housekeeping services. Or housekeeping advice that is tailored for the ADHD brain (and not devised on the assumption that it's just about exerting better "will power.")<BR/><BR/>If my ADHD label is just an "excuse" for me then I'd like people to explain why I ultimately became MORE productive overall in the years AFTER my diagnosis (particularly once I learned better skills for adapting to it and learned to accept that certain adaptations I had already evolved were necessary adaptations and not just signs of laziness) then I was in many of the years BEFORE my diagnosis.<BR/><BR/>*sigh8*<BR/><BR/>(The 8 was a typo; I was going to delete it but then I decided that a certain person might like it :-) )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-63287412533762470962008-03-22T16:49:00.000-04:002008-03-22T16:49:00.000-04:00Ugh. It's especially hard when you're in middle sc...Ugh. It's especially hard when you're in middle school and you're being bullied and your guidance counselor tells you you have to expect that sort of treatment when you rock and have seizures and don't dress in the fashionable clothes. There's no excuse for me not changing myself no matter how impossible or taxing that might be! (rolls eyes)geosaruhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11333811132718881124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-14731852775522447852007-06-24T08:16:00.000-04:002007-06-24T08:16:00.000-04:00Thanks for writing this, and for trying to open th...Thanks for writing this, and for trying to open the eyes of these people. It is obviously a hard thing to do, but there is a good chance that some people will read your flyers, will take notice and will change.<BR/><BR/>I was thinking about 'excuses' recently and wrote a <A HREF="http://thefamilyvoyage.blogspot.com/2007/06/parenting-is-not-so-easy.html" REL="nofollow">post</A> on the subject too.<BR/><BR/>As I wrote then;<BR/>"I want to help prepare Duncan for society as best as I can, but also I expect society to broaden it's definition of acceptable behaviour. Acting autistic does not have to equate to acting badly."Sharon McDaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13550156204691696968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-72775947496317945972007-06-23T20:27:00.000-04:002007-06-23T20:27:00.000-04:00I believe Tourettes would suffice for a simple int...I believe Tourettes would suffice for a simple interruption as long as you are sufficiently apologetic in demeanor. Coprolalia, though, would not be tolerated I am sure. May I reccommend a therapist who may be able through 40 hours of DTT per week, to replace some of your more offensive interjections with the word "kittens"? In that case, your questionable disability would I am sure be seen as quaint and forgivable.Bevhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06766614739853100172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-12777262692864102762007-06-23T18:16:00.000-04:002007-06-23T18:16:00.000-04:00Interesting cos this is part of what I wrote on my...Interesting cos this is part of what I wrote on my last blog<BR/><BR/>"I am either considered too intelligent to use autism as an “excuse” or damned if I do for "malingering" and for wanting an easy ride out of the pit I have dug myself into, or then not even allowed to play the autism card at all because that would be considered to be patronising me. Well equality is not ignoring the condition, it is taking proper account of it and creating a "level playing field"<BR/><BR/>And if I should ever encounter Dr Bombay and don't wait to be asked to interupt the presentation when he brings up the issue of excuses I shall no doubt need a better excuse than autism for that, will Tourettes do?Larry Arnold PhD FRSAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05074432718592268750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-21908973263198404172007-06-23T14:34:00.000-04:002007-06-23T14:34:00.000-04:00It's possible that he might have meant something l...It's possible that he might have meant something like "autism should not be stereotyped as inevitably resulting in bad behavior."<BR/><BR/>But "excuse" was indeed a poor choice of words, whatever he meant by it.<BR/><BR/>And of course, "bad behavior" is a subjective concept that can and does mean very different things to different people...abfhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01228622726560993968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-70347518201591913162007-06-23T12:10:00.000-04:002007-06-23T12:10:00.000-04:00Bev, you are wonderful! I hate the word "excuse."...Bev, you are wonderful! I <I>hate</I> the word "excuse." It gets thrown around so easily, and it is so hurtful. Autism is an "excuse"; addiction is an "excuse"; depression is an "excuse"... They are not excuses, they are reasons.<BR/><BR/>We all have limited energy, some things are harder than others. We each have to decide how best to spend our own resources. And sometimes we can use all of our energy and willpower and resources to try to do something and still fail where others succeed easily. <BR/><BR/>We accept this so easily with physical limitations. Of course, I am not making excuses if I say that as a slightly overweight, nearly 40 year old stay-at-home mom with bad knees, I am not going to ever win the US Open tennis tournament. It's obvious that my body can't do it. But if I am making excuses when I accept my mental, emotional or neurological limitations.<BR/><BR/>I appreciate so much what you are doing, because I do believe that it will lead to greater acceptance and understanding.<BR/><BR/>I may have to blog about this myself...<BR/><BR/>BTW, for any of your comment readers, I am the NT mom of an autistic son.Mary P Jones (MPJ)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10251787926841410344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-33851015415597983822007-06-23T10:57:00.000-04:002007-06-23T10:57:00.000-04:00Awesome post, Bev. Really. I am attending a conf...Awesome post, Bev. Really. <BR/>I am attending a conference the second week of July. I'm going to do my bit to spread the word as well.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10831843534657098189noreply@blogger.com