tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post3053261893589837568..comments2023-12-29T04:36:07.964-04:00Comments on Square 8: When words (on t-shirts) fail meBevhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06766614739853100172noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-36635512479828159512015-04-11T09:10:35.438-04:002015-04-11T09:10:35.438-04:00I've come to the conclusion that labels aren&#...I've come to the conclusion that labels aren't particularly bad, but they're kinda like your privates. You don't just whip them out in standard conversation. IMHO one would really need to be intimate with someone, and they would have to be worthy of your intimacy, before you were to expose yourself that much. <br /><br />So, I don't go around telling strangers, work colleagues, acquaintances and heaven-forbid, not the boss. It would need to be a boss one could really really trust. One that would truly classify as a very close friend. That is more the exception than the norm. <br /><br />And. I would never equate autism as a hemorrhoid, as there's nothing good about a hemorrhoid! Autism has its goods and bads. I don't care much about the bads, the quarks I can put up with, and the goods I happen to love and would never want to do away with. <br /><br />But, even if my eyes were blue, I wouldn't want to be introduced as such. As in, meet so and so, he's got blue eyes. (What the heck?) <br /><br />Tho I get the impression that some introducers are trying to forewarn of danger. As in, meet my crazy sister, she is brandishing a butcher's knife! lolMiguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-32697705100414292062015-04-08T06:59:59.980-04:002015-04-08T06:59:59.980-04:00Envision a boss introducing an employee as "E...Envision a boss introducing an employee as "Everone, meet Jane, she's a pain in the ass. But I want you to accept her." Hookay...Miguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-81502018290136433632015-04-07T14:26:07.047-04:002015-04-07T14:26:07.047-04:00Thank you very much for the cached link! :-)Thank you very much for the cached link! :-)Miguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-24941335429042709002015-04-07T14:22:47.956-04:002015-04-07T14:22:47.956-04:00Bev, you have some awesome insights. I think that...Bev, you have some awesome insights. I think that NTs will often seek NTs because they feel more comfortable around NTs and then it's like: Let the commiseration begin! And oh what a victim and a martyr they are by having to put up with autistics. Poor them. Woe is them. And misery likes company. And then more people join the club and it grows to be one big dysfunctional family. <br /><br />Of course, this probay leads to finding productive ways to deal with the pesky sides of autism, especially in a way that would be in the best interests of those of us who are autistic ourselves. <br /><br />Instead, it can turn into a misery remediation session for the caregivers wherein the caregivers and their quality of life comes first. It is no wonder many autistics are overly sedated by their "caregivers" as it becomes more a matter of convenience, rather than actually getting to the root of the matter and seeing how quality of life may be improved for the actual autistic. <br /><br />And finally, of course, NTs are the majority, and it becomes the tyranny of the masses. An exclusionary one at that. Miguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-19645939014071679462015-04-07T14:09:11.243-04:002015-04-07T14:09:11.243-04:00Bev, regarding your references to an inability to ...Bev, regarding your references to an inability to initiate action: In my earlier years, I was often told by my significant other that I lacked spontenaity. I still battle that, but not quite as much. Miguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-8161142162612329352015-04-07T14:03:19.121-04:002015-04-07T14:03:19.121-04:00Bev, much of what you describe of yourself led som...Bev, much of what you describe of yourself led some family members to think that I was on drugs when I was young. To me, it was so irritating. I still get angry when I think about it to this day. And no, I was not on drugs. But I guess that us how in their minds they could fathom that I would act in such ways and do such things. <br /><br />Autism was taboo and considered a stain in the family make-up. <br /><br />It boils down to shame, lack of understanding and a lack of acceptance. Miguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-42734758255711576762010-02-26T14:59:23.417-04:002010-02-26T14:59:23.417-04:00youre link to "Why I Dislike Person First Lan...youre link to "Why I Dislike Person First Language " seem to no more work, maybe this one will work better:<br /><br />http://web.archive.org/web/20080113073826/web.syr.edu/~jisincla/person_first.htm<br /><br />and here a traduction in french (from myself, i don't have the rights, so if there is a problem with that i could maybe remove it... but i hope there will not be a problem):<br />http://forum.asperansa.org/viewtopic.php?p=24954#p24954Ole Ferme l'Oeilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07632467869395776084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-83706105467285369582007-06-21T22:08:00.000-04:002007-06-21T22:08:00.000-04:00mpj, I could've written the same. "painfully shy" ...mpj, I could've written the same. "painfully shy" is no joke. <BR/>and Way to put yourself out there Bev!Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02732095611947394379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-75634120472380542342007-06-21T21:03:00.000-04:002007-06-21T21:03:00.000-04:00As VAB says, this post rocks.As VAB says, this post rocks.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10683984456328644922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-46087795894061123822007-06-21T16:37:00.000-04:002007-06-21T16:37:00.000-04:00Good post... I hope some folks will take you up on...Good post... I hope some folks will take you up on your offer!abfhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01228622726560993968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-66855897449146024062007-06-21T12:40:00.000-04:002007-06-21T12:40:00.000-04:00Bev, love your blog, as always. You are definitel...Bev, love your blog, as always. You are definitely helping me shape my perspective on my son. <BR/><BR/>Don't be too concerned if NT parents don't always reach out for your help. I know have my own social anxiety issues. I often see myself reflected in my son; I don't think it's an accident (or a vaccine) that gave us the commonalities we have. I'm sure it would be nearly impossible for me to approach you at a crowded conference and talk to you IRL.<BR/><BR/>Best to you!Mary P Jones (MPJ)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10251787926841410344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-6438528971640806292007-06-21T12:25:00.000-04:002007-06-21T12:25:00.000-04:00This post rocks. You are so exceptionally polite, ...This post rocks. You are so exceptionally polite, too.VABhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06652301858477760996noreply@blogger.com