tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post8856209296817287935..comments2023-12-29T04:36:07.964-04:00Comments on Square 8: I Am Joe's Functioning LabelBevhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06766614739853100172noreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-36129209986258977342016-11-29T11:19:08.571-04:002016-11-29T11:19:08.571-04:00You can credit to Bev Harp at Square 8. This blog ...You can credit to Bev Harp at Square 8. This blog is no longer being updated regularly. There are many good ones out there. I recommend autistichoya.com; unstrangemind.com; and timetolisten.blogspot.com among others. Each of these has a links section that will lead you to other great autistic writers. Bevhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439932774462808647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-73110534694398356532016-11-29T11:12:55.335-04:002016-11-29T11:12:55.335-04:00No, thank you. I love your blog! How would you lik...No, thank you. I love your blog! How would you like me to credit you, verbally? I'm new to the wonderful online community of Autistics, and I'm still learning the social rules. (Ugh! More social rules to learn! Does it ever end?!)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17321404072592361151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-76274754632621065082016-11-28T15:12:52.923-04:002016-11-28T15:12:52.923-04:00Sure, no problem. Thanks!Sure, no problem. Thanks!Bevhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439932774462808647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-83330883744964946512016-11-28T13:18:53.312-04:002016-11-28T13:18:53.312-04:00Bev, can I print out this post and show it, credit...Bev, can I print out this post and show it, crediting you however you wish, to my therapist? It clearly articulates issues that I've been having, and I think it will really help us.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17321404072592361151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-82392511991193394592015-07-21T09:25:59.945-04:002015-07-21T09:25:59.945-04:00Ohh PLEASE, can I apply for the High-Functioning l...Ohh PLEASE, can I apply for the High-Functioning label?! C'mon! I really really wanna be high-functioning, or at least called that. Hmm.. Maybe I can put High-Functioning in my résumé. There. And I can even say I'm endorsed by the APA as "High-Functioning" and that's why they should hire me. I'll leave out the part that APA also endorsed torture disguised as "enhanced interrogation techniques". <br /><br />Anyways, in reality I consider myself to be high-functioning, in some areas, yet in other areas, low functioning. Aside from parents desperately wanting their kids to seem above average, of some category or other, the category that describes high-functioning only looks at certain areas, but disregards others. This is why it can be mighty confusing. I would just rather do away with such a subjective criteria for functioning, as though it were octane or something. 😂Miguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-66068543630257576462015-06-29T09:29:26.455-04:002015-06-29T09:29:26.455-04:00http://respectfullyconnected.blogspot.co.uk/2015/0...http://respectfullyconnected.blogspot.co.uk/2015/02/face-truth-what-you-really-mean-when.htmlAutistic Against Antivaxxershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04529371929000018264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-64223739046480977722015-06-29T09:28:59.768-04:002015-06-29T09:28:59.768-04:00You might be interested in this:
http://respectfu...You might be interested in this:<br /><br />http://respectfullyconnected.blogspot.co.uk/2015/02/face-truth-what-you-really-mean-when.htmlAutistic Against Antivaxxershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04529371929000018264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-4038429477333952232015-06-01T00:16:57.362-04:002015-06-01T00:16:57.362-04:00As clear and true as your font. Thank you. As clear and true as your font. Thank you. PurpleVaseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679998490861801511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-2844179641606215002015-05-26T10:58:08.670-04:002015-05-26T10:58:08.670-04:00Same with me - I eventually lost my job because of...Same with me - I eventually lost my job because of too much "inappropriate behaviour" exacerbated by being micromanaged and told I was the most incompetent worker there (despite working in the department for 28 years and earlier being considered and exemplary worker). I self harmed when I was pushed too far and am easily swamped if expected to do more than one thing at a time. Yet, I shouldn't have any issues because I am so "smart" and "high functioning". Give me a break! In some ways it's worse because many people expect more of somebody who's bright as they consider we can always "just figure it out".<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-51084623387948319572011-05-19T10:24:30.876-04:002011-05-19T10:24:30.876-04:00Lurker is apparently the poster child for NLMC.
T...Lurker is apparently the poster child for NLMC.<br /><br />Thanks for writing this. It's very much like me, and I sometimes have trouble getting people other than my husband to understand.Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17972367424385639707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-44948396765511391702011-02-12T13:08:48.968-04:002011-02-12T13:08:48.968-04:00That was brilliant! And so true! Go check out my n...That was brilliant! And so true! Go check out my new Asperger's blog: http://eccentricsunited.blogspot.comEccentrics Unitedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01387926241080720465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-56785622283233099172010-09-09T04:45:56.636-04:002010-09-09T04:45:56.636-04:00A very smart wordplay representing the discord amo...A very smart wordplay representing the discord amongst the world community over the autism cluster of function corresponding to a given category.<br /><br />I agree their are variable skill issues, being somewhere in the "middle", or even borderline neurotypical (or borderline Aspergers) presentation. Which can both fustrate the hell out of someone who has Aspergers or similar charactersistics. I have had this emotional experience.<br /><br />I also agree that we do have smarts but sometimes don't know how to apply it, in what context. So we could be have an amzing discourse wuith a doctor and no all the inside outs of his profession but have nothing to say to our friends; or speak better in one context than another due to anxiety/stress, sensory, or emotional input.<br /><br />In any case, I believe with the proper support someone can identify where they are responsible to their skill level and where the arent' and apply it to life domains. Is their such a thing...? It's pretty rare to have that type of service outside the PDD/ID structure.<br /><br />I get that all the time about Aspies working and having a family. I just say that person is damn lucky than, "isn't he..?". <br /><br />In addition to the fact of variable presentation, all Aspies are at different maturational, developmental and emotional stages in their life. This can also reflect or be express as a different perspective, motivational issue, or presentation.<br /><br />Do many forget that when they werre 18 or perhaps 20 they had wild lives in frat houses; went to all the house parties; got drunk multiple times, forgetting each time the unruley feeling of a hangover. Perhaps they never wanted a gf/bf at one point or never liked a certain type of food or bought a product hey know longer use.<br /><br />What we feel, think, ponder changes over time, whether due to biological or environmental means. And we as Aspies are subjected to the same exact growing process, just ours is slower/faster trajectory of growth in certain areas, not correlating with what NT's think of as a normal stage of developement.<br /><br />I think both sides of these arguments in the comments should be reflected on.<br /><br />What NT's need to do is give us the same respect, benefit-of-the-doubt", and extend the same understanding and acceptance, we would (hopefully) give them. <br /><br />Because Im sure we could point out something that is different from the norm in them; it's just that, that difference isn't called anything more than a Jungian personality type or, at it's worse, Borderline Personality Disorder.<br /><br />For us as the best advocated we can be to highlight this fact whether we try to do it comedically or bluntly.<br /><br />Enuf said...WDBnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-91846818529753422902010-02-14T18:42:14.873-04:002010-02-14T18:42:14.873-04:00BRILLIANT!!!!!!!!BRILLIANT!!!!!!!!Janehttp://www.janesprints.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-75720963132422380002009-08-27T16:21:41.564-04:002009-08-27T16:21:41.564-04:00thank you. this is a wonderful illustration.thank you. this is a wonderful illustration.Corina Beckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04026707230826401476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-24463107615451065522009-07-16T17:06:31.855-04:002009-07-16T17:06:31.855-04:00I appreciate your comments. It sounds like someth...I appreciate your comments. It sounds like something my 17-year-old son would say (if he would think about it). Thanks for reminding me how he must feel daily as an "HFA" or NT-mimic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-56322150631332569432009-03-09T03:33:00.000-04:002009-03-09T03:33:00.000-04:00I really appreciate your blog, it is very insightf...I really appreciate your blog, it is very insightful and<BR/>helpful, and I love the way you have uncovered the <BR/>ugly truth of the "Not like my child", (NLMC) <BR/>phenomena. You can see how that hurts the child<BR/>regardless of their perceived functioning label.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-85687758486365379982009-02-28T05:47:00.000-04:002009-02-28T05:47:00.000-04:00I find it very strange to begin with, that many pe...I find it very strange to begin with, that many people<BR/>equate the severity of autism with a corresponding measure of "fogginess", I do not see this with all<BR/>neurological disabilities, but it has been my experience in life to have observed this phenomena <BR/>projected on me in different situations when dealing with many different people, but certainly not all people, or else witnessing the same attitude towards<BR/>developmental disabilities in general.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-39895789444219324002009-02-13T13:26:00.000-04:002009-02-13T13:26:00.000-04:00This post makes me want to cry. But in a good way...This post makes me want to cry. But in a good way. Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-66141257403736884982009-01-25T18:25:00.000-04:002009-01-25T18:25:00.000-04:00I think you have captured my wife's feelings perfe...I think you have captured my wife's feelings perfectly. She always mumble "High functioning my ass" or some derivative after failing in some every day attempt. I love her so much, and she wants to go to med school, and she's so smart in some areas and then absolutely cannot grasp others. It just doesn't make sense to categorize her as "high functioning," as if she needs to actually function more poorly to get any extra help from people. <BR/><BR/>In her current chemistry class she goes to the SI (supplemental instructions) and comes home to tell me that the instructor spent all the time on all the things she understands and none of the time on any of the things she doesn't understand, because what she "gets" about chemistry is exactly the inverse of what every other kid "gets" and likewise with what she doesn't "get". It's very difficult when she comes off as a savant with regard to naming properties or names of things but can't remember what are supposed to be simple quantitative type formulas.John Gilmorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07130775534301234544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-84079058694390338892008-11-26T00:59:00.000-04:002008-11-26T00:59:00.000-04:00Thank you for posting this - don't know how I miss...Thank you for posting this - don't know how I missed reading it before but it's just what I needed to hear. My son was denied access to special services last year at his elementary school because he was considered 'too high-functioning' by the school psychologist. I hate the use of labels especially when they're only used to deny someone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-35861825930490194112008-11-03T01:04:00.000-04:002008-11-03T01:04:00.000-04:00Lurker, are you are jerk? No, let me ask that que...Lurker, are you are jerk? No, let me ask that question more politely.<BR/><BR/>Did you ever use the nom de plume 'Hesed' on Topix? You sound quite like that person?<BR/><BR/>Have you, or anyone you know, ever been so afraid of something (i.e. snakes, heights, spiders)that at the mere mention and/or sight of said object of fear that you (or they) were frozen? Or were thinking of one thing to say but said another? Or that you (or they) took odd or drastic measures to avoid anything that you thought would cause you to come in contact of one sort or another with that fear?<BR/><BR/>Do you call them or yourself crazy for being afraid? Do you say that no matter how deathly afraid they are, it's nothing and that they should 'get it together already'?<BR/><BR/>Those feelings, those problems. They are only the tip of the iceberg for autistics. Don't lambaste them for what APPEARS to be the problem.<BR/><BR/>After all, didn't your mother tell you to never judge a book by its cover?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-19491837722579464302008-07-29T04:03:00.000-04:002008-07-29T04:03:00.000-04:00Go Joe. Very true. Go everybody.We all struggle al...Go Joe. Very true. Go everybody.<BR/><BR/>We all struggle along, whether LF, HF, Aspie, or NT-mimic. I call myself the latter because my behavior strongly resembles NT.<BR/>I have a job, wife, family, home loan. I dribble and twitch and the spoken word is not always the one I planned to say.<BR/><BR/>Who else is confused here? After my diagnosis via all available tests on the intermess. I began to delve and dig into the vast body of autistic knowledge. The contradictions in our individual abilities and the contrasts between us are overwhelming. I need to fit it into a pattern and I can't. I see suffering/enlightenment/the play of massive minds and I feel humbled. I feel flattened by the wisdom oozing at me. I still can't construct a pattern.<BR/><BR/>Nowadays I try to be invisible. I applaud you for your courage. I want to tell Lurker to swim in the information before biting or judging. I want a clever person to weave it all into a system that I can write about.<BR/><BR/>But seriously: no band practice tonight.<BR/><BR/>P BAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-16767189867553986202008-04-19T20:48:00.000-04:002008-04-19T20:48:00.000-04:00Get over it. Autism is a meme, not reality. Free y...Get over it. Autism is a meme, not reality. Free yourselves or remain forver slaves of semantics and society.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-14219688598320179762008-04-09T03:44:00.000-04:002008-04-09T03:44:00.000-04:00Not meaning to hurt Joe's feelings, but I was laug...Not meaning to hurt Joe's feelings, but I was laughing all the way through this one.<BR/><BR/><BR/> I have less trouble than Joe, but I identify with about half of those things, especially the employment stuff. There is nothing at all wrong with my life that can't be attributed to one of two things - the natural process of aging, or the equally natural process of being discriminated against 'cause I'm close enough to neurotypical that people think I ought to "clean up my act"..https://www.blogger.com/profile/03915219261001181341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-27469421817568711862008-03-31T09:46:00.000-04:002008-03-31T09:46:00.000-04:00when Joe loses a competition on an internationally...when Joe loses a competition on an internationally syndicated show, due to not being able to ask for directions to 6 interviews in one day, in China, you will be there. You will be there to prevent Tyra Banks from coming off as someone who discriminates against "dis-abled"<BR/><BR/>Heather, ANTM fans favorite every week she was on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com